If you find yourself at a crossroad pertaining to the destiny of your relationship with the Narcissist, I completely get it.  May I suggest taking an honest assessment of the relationship?  Taking an honest assessment forces you to consider the facts, everything that is true about the relationship and not what you hope for the relationship to be.  It requires that you know longer make excuses for the Narcissist and that you call their behavior exactly what it is, abusive.

In my personal process of deciding to go “No Contact” with the Narcissist and ending the relationship completely, I comprised a list of pros and cons of the Narcissist including his behaviors and actions.  Needless to say after putting the list together it was obvious what I needed to do.  It was important for me to put the actions of the Narcissist on paper and in black and white in order to clearly see what was true instead of the lies I was believing.  After true evaluation, I realized that many of the pros on the list were not even true but they represented the way I saw the relationship through all the excuses (that I made for the Narcs behavior), lies (the Narc was feeding me) and the denial (of me simply not wanting to believe that he was that evil).

If you are on the fence about whether or not to continue your relationship with the Narcissist, perhaps creating a list of pros and cons may be helpful in your decision-making process.  Remember to be completely honest with yourself and refuse to make excuses for the unacceptable behavior of the Narcissist.

With Much Love,

Wendy