One of the most upsetting things about dating a narcissist for me has been how I was lead to believe he was a mighty man of God…a Believer. I found myself caught up in trying to make the relationship work, so I gave it all that I had. It wasn’t until years later that I came to terms with the fact that the relationship was not of God but was sent to destroy various areas of my life.
In hindsight, it was clear that the relationships was not of God simply by the actions of the narcissist. I chose to believe what I was being told over what I was actually experiencing. In spite of him pretending to be in my corner, it was obvious that his goal was to break me completely down.
Had I carefully weighed and examined what I was being told, I could have saved myself from unnecessary heartache and pain.
Although wanting to see the good in those we meet is a desire it may not always workout in our favor.
The Bible tells us in 1 John 4:1 My dear friends, don’t believe everything you hear. Carefully weigh and examine what people tell you. Not everyone who talks about God comes from God.
Oh how implementing this scripture could have saved me from a terrible narcissistic experience.
The truth of the matter is that we can no longer take people we meet at face value, but we must test to see if they are of God. One of the easiest ways to do so is to simply pray and ask God if this person is meant to be in our lives (you can be specific and ask “Is this my husband?”). The key to asking God is to wait on His response and not our own personal desires.
Although waiting on confirmation from God may not be the way you are accustom to operating when meeting a potential mate, doing so can save you many years of narcissistic heartache and pain.
When you look back on your experience with the narcissist, can you see how carefully weighing and examining their words along with seeking God in prayer for confirmation could have yielded a different result?
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