Everything seems to be going well. You haven’t argued and have been spending what appears to be quality time together. You find yourself doing everything in your power to show how much you care, and it appears to be working.

Your feeling happy and from the sound of his voice last night when you made lunch plans, he is too.  But you agreed to meet at noon and it’s now 1:00.  You’ve left 3 messages and there’s no response to your text message either, which is strange.

Could he have been in an accident?

Perhaps it totally slipped his mind…


You find yourself wondering if that ex of his diverted his attention with her relentless attempts to rekindle their relationship. She continues to try working her way back into his heart in spite of him professing his commitment to you.  Or…at least that’s what he told you.

You find yourself experiencing a moment of panic followed by a wave of fear.

Needless to say, you wait until 2:00 because it’s just too hard to fathom that he wouldn’t show up. You finally decide to drive to his home to make sure everything is okay.

Surprisingly, you arrive only to find the ex-girlfriends car parked out front.

And your revisited by that wave of fear.

What in the world is going on?

What is she up to now?

You never expect him to be the source of the drama because you are in a good place. Right?

Needless to say, your attempts at ringing the doorbell followed by banging on the door have gone unanswered but your determined not to leave.

Finally, he comes out on the balcony of his second-floor apartment and tells you that he simply can’t open the door.

You begin questioning him…okay pleading with him only to be told he’ll call you later as he returns inside leaving you ticked off and shocked.

Has anything remotely similar ever happened to you?

If so, you may have been triangulated.

This is a technique used by the narcissist to create a conflict between to unsuspecting victims.  In doing so, they create a false sense of competition between the two women involved.

The scenario above is one that the narcissist will strategically set up from the missed lunch appointment to ignoring the calls and waiting for you to arrive knowing that you are familiar with the ex’s car.

The entire scene is one that the narcissist organizes sometimes with it ending in a physical altercation with the narcissist secretly gloating about being worth fighting for.

NEVERMIND the fact that he set the whole thing up

This is just another one of the many games that are played by narcissistic men who prey on unsuspecting women. 

Remember the key to knowing if he’s a narcissist is knowing what to look for…