Last night I listened to one of my favorite gospel music groups, Worshipmob. I sang along (off-key of course), worshipped God and gave Him my praise, with tears streaming
The realization that the man you were convinced was your soulmate is, in fact, a Narcissist can be quite overwhelming. The inner flood of emotions stirring up within can leave you wondering if you will ever recover from such a betrayal. How could someone be so cruel? Did he ever truly love me or was it all a lie? How did I not know that he was a fraud? These are just a few of the many questions within you demanding to be answered.
If you find yourself at a crossroad pertaining to the destiny of your relationship with the Narcissist, I completely get it. May I suggest taking an honest assessment of the relationship? Taking an honest assessment forces you to consider the facts, everything that is true about the relationship and not what you hope for the relationship to be. It requires that you know longer make excuses for the Narcissist and that you call their behavior exactly what it is, abusive.
Once the Narcissist is confident in the fact that you have fallen in love with them, the devaluation stage begins. In this stage, the narcissist will become outraged by even the smallest of things. Wherein the idealization stage you were the best thing smoking, in the devaluation stage, not so much. The Narcissist will begin to negatively criticize you and imply that you are inadequate to carry out the simplest of task.
But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— 5having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.
If you give false praise to others in order to get what you want, you are only setting a trap for yourself.
A lying tongue hates those it hurts, and a flattering mouth works ruin.
Have you found yourself in a place where you have ended the relationship with the Narcissist, have successfully gone no contact but are left to deal with the fact that you are still in love with them?