If you find yourself at a crossroad pertaining to the destiny of your relationship with the Narcissist, I completely get it. May I suggest taking an honest assessment of the relationship? Taking an honest assessment forces you to consider the facts, everything that is true about the relationship and not what you hope for the relationship to be. It requires that you know longer make excuses for the Narcissist and that you call their behavior exactly what it is, abusive.
Once the Narcissist is confident in the fact that you have fallen in love with them, the devaluation stage begins. In this stage, the narcissist will become outraged by even the smallest of things. Wherein the idealization stage you were the best thing smoking, in the devaluation stage, not so much. The Narcissist will begin to negatively criticize you and imply that you are inadequate to carry out the simplest of task.
But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— 5having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.
If you give false praise to others in order to get what you want, you are only setting a trap for yourself.
A lying tongue hates those it hurts, and a flattering mouth works ruin.
Have you found yourself in a place where you have ended the relationship with the Narcissist, have successfully gone no contact but are left to deal with the fact that you are still in love with them?
For the Spiritual Narcissist, targeting the women of God is a great source of Narcissistic supply. Many women of God become easy prey, falling in love with the image of a mighty man of God who is actually a wolf in sheep clothing. The question that plagues us is “how do they do it”.
Simply put, there are no two ways about it. Dealing with a Narcissist is sticky business. The onslaught of emotional abuse, confusion and outright chaos is more than anyone could ever imagine. Walking through the complexities of a Narcissistic relationship is like walking through a landmine. The uncertainty of knowing what to expect or when the next emotional explosion (Narcissistic Rage) is coming can eventually become quite exasperating.