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Discard by The Narcissist

The Narcissist will intentionally discard you at the worst possible time in your life.  This discard will take place during unfortunate life situations such as losing a job, a loved one, or after receiving a negative diagnosis.  On the other hand, The Narcissist will plan a discard to interrupt what should be a time of celebration such as a new job or promotion, a birthday, holiday or anniversary.  The Narcissist will implement the discard, leaving you bewildered, dazed and confused during a time in which you should be celebrating.  To the Narcissist this guarantees that instead of remembering the joyous occasion, your memories will be marred by the discard of the Narcissist. One moment, the relationship will appear to be doing well and the Narcissist will pose as a source of support, and out of nowhere, the Narcissist will abruptly end the relationship.  As you search for answers trying to put your shattered dreams back together, the Narcissist will act cold and callous as if you never meant anything to them.   The sole purpose behind …

The Narcissist, A Real Life Grinch

If you have dated a narcissist for any length of time, you are definitely aware of their fascination with sabotaging holidays, birthdays, graduations, you name it.  Whatever the event, I’m sure their footprint of misery supersedes the memory.  Whether it’s the disappearing act, the sudden argument or the silent treatment, the narcissist is determined to steal the joy out of any celebratory event.  And they will continue to do so, year after year…after year.  The bigger the event or holiday, the better.  So with that being said, it’s no wonder why Christmas is the opportune time for the narcissist’s dark side to be on display. The narcissist has absolutely no problem bringing the joy of Christmas to a halt and redirecting all attention onto themselves.  That’s what the Grinch-like behavior is all about, stealing your joy and gaining your attention.  The narcissist hates to see anyone truly happy because it reminds them of their misery which is unbearable.  So in order to get relief from their own miserable selves, the narcissist will project their misery …

Sticky “Narcissistic” Situation

Simply put, there are no two ways about it.  Dealing with a Narcissist is sticky business.  The onslaught of emotional abuse, confusion and outright chaos is more than anyone could ever imagine.  Walking through the complexities of a Narcissistic relationship is like walking through a landmine.  The uncertainty of knowing what to expect or when the next emotional explosion (Narcissistic Rage) is coming can eventually become quite exasperating.

Narcissist Psychological Warfare Tactic #1 Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic that is best described in these deceptively phrased statements; “Are you crazy?” “That didn’t happen” and “You imagined it.”  Gaslighting is extremely dangerous as it distorts and erodes the victims sense of reality; diminishes their self-trust and causes them to feel unjustified in shining a light on the mistreatment and calling it what it is…abuse!