Once the Narcissist is confident in the fact that you have fallen in love with them, the devaluation stage begins. In this stage, the narcissist will become outraged by even the smallest of things. Wherein the idealization stage you were the best thing smoking, in the devaluation stage, not so much. The Narcissist will begin to negatively criticize you and imply that you are inadequate to carry out the simplest of task.
When you have been emotionally tormented by the Narcissist, it is normal to find within yourself a burning desire to get the Narcissist back for what they have done to you. This burning desire can cause you to obsess over the mistreatment as oppose to partaking in the actions that lead to healing and deliverance from the emotional trauma associated with the detestable acts of the Narcissist. The problem with obsessing over what the Narcissist did to you is that it paralyzes you and keeps you bound. In order to break free from the Narcissist completely, it is imperative to turn the Narcissist over to the vengeance of God. God has promised revenge on your behalf so you must trust Him to do so.