There are many things that can leave you bewildered in life, and Narcissistic Abuse  is definitely one of them. Narcissistic abuse is carried out in such a way that you don’t even realize what is taking place. However,  The hard-core truth of narcissistic abuse is nothing short of an emotional con game.

The Narcissist

The Narcissist is an individual who is highly skilled at trickery and a master of deception. They will always find a way to point the blame away from themselves and onto others.  This allows them to hold others accountable for their own wrong doings.  In fact, the Narcissist has a multitude of tricks they use against their love partners that in time, tears down their self esteem.

Many of the Narcissist’s coping mechanisms are abusive which is where the term Narcissistic Abuse comes from.  The tricks that Narcissist use are evil, cruel and downright wicked.  Some have outright deemed it to be witchcraft.  And reasonably so, as Narcissist use diversionary tactics that distort the reality of their victims.

Diversionary Tactics that Narcissist Use

Rage – This is an extremely intense anger out of nowhere, and about whatever the Narcissist chooses to use against you.  The intent is to startle you into doing something that the Narcissist wants you to do.

Gaslighting – Is a form of manipulation through persistent denial, misdirection, contradiction and lying in an attempt to destabilize you.  The intent of the Narcissist is to sow seeds of doubt in hopes of making you question your own memory, perception and sanity.  *

Manipulation – Is the type of influence that aims to change the behavior or perception of others through abusive, deceptive or underhanded tactics.  By advancing the interests of the manipulator, often at another’s expense, such methods could be considered exploitative, abusive, devious, and deceptive. The process of manipulation involves bringing an unknowing victim under the domination of the manipulator, often using deception, and using the victim to serve their own purposes.*

The Victim Card – The Narcissist uses this tactic with ease, sharing stories of how they in some way are the victim.  This can include stories (lies) about how parents abused them or how their ex love partner abused and mistreated them.  They may even bring on the tears to pull on your emotions.  Don’t fall for it!  The intent of the Narcissist is to gain sympathy and to control you.

The Silent Treatment – The Narcissist will punish you by giving you the silent treatment.  This is an act of intentionally ignoring you.  The Narcissist will let you off the hook if an apology is offered, in spite of the fact that you are not to blame for anything.  The intent of the Narcissist is to modify your behavior.

The Stare – This is an extremely intense stare for no reason at all and void of feeling.  The intent of the Narcissist is to scare you into submission.  This manipulative tactic is sometimes mixed with the silent treatment.

Projection – This is where the Narcissist will project their issues onto you as if you were guilty of them.  An example of this is where the Narcissist will accuse you of cheating when they are cheating, or they will call you a liar when their the one lying.

Twisting – If you confront the Narcissist, they’ll twist the situation around and blame you for their actions.  Often times they will insist that you apologize to them, because accepting responsibility for their actions is not an option.

The Narcissist is Hiding Their True Self

Although the Narcissist appears to be a self confident individual with a high self esteem, nothing could be further from the truth.  In actuality, the Narcissist is extremely insecure and has a tremendously low self esteem.  As the Narcissist carries out their twisted plot to destroy your soul, it will all be in an effort to keep you from seeing their true self.

The Narcissist themselves are carrying out the role of a self created character that does not exist.  So while you are dating their false self, and revealing your inner most secrets, the Narcissist is taking it all in and plotting to use everything against you, in a twisted game of lies and deceit, that you are not even aware is being played.