All posts tagged: Deliverance

The Narcissist, A Real Life Grinch

If you have dated a narcissist for any length of time, you are definitely aware of their fascination with sabotaging holidays, birthdays, graduations, you name it.  Whatever the event, I’m sure their footprint of misery supersedes the memory.  Whether it’s the disappearing act, the sudden argument or the silent treatment, the narcissist is determined to steal the joy out of any celebratory event.  And they will continue to do so, year after year…after year.  The bigger the event or holiday, the better.  So with that being said, it’s no wonder why Christmas is the opportune time for the narcissist’s dark side to be on display. The narcissist has absolutely no problem bringing the joy of Christmas to a halt and redirecting all attention onto themselves.  That’s what the Grinch-like behavior is all about, stealing your joy and gaining your attention.  The narcissist hates to see anyone truly happy because it reminds them of their misery which is unbearable.  So in order to get relief from their own miserable selves, the narcissist will project their misery …

What Just Happened…

The realization that the man you were convinced was your soulmate is, in fact, a Narcissist can be quite overwhelming.  The inner flood of emotions stirring up within can leave you wondering if you will ever recover from such a betrayal.  How could someone be so cruel?  Did he ever truly love me or was it all a lie?  How did I not know that he was a fraud?  These are just a few of the many questions within you demanding to be answered.

No Contact Like A Boss

Walking away from those that we care for is never an easy task.  Especially if we are uncertain as to how we ended up here in the first place.  I know first hand that this can be a very uncomfortable position to be in, so let me first commend you for taking a stand for the betterment of YOU! Secondly, it is imperative to come face to face with the truth about the relationship and why no contact (NC) is necessary.  Accepting this truth will help if you become tempted to open the door for the Narcissist once they begin hoovering after you implement NC.