Narcissistically Speaking

If you have dated a narcissist for any length of time, you are definitely aware of their fascination with sabotaging holidays, birthdays, graduations, you name it.  Whatever the event, I’m sure their footprint of misery supersedes the memory.  Whether it’s the disappearing act, the sudden argument or the silent treatment, the narcissist is determined to steal the joy out of any celebratory event.  And they will continue to do so, year after year…after year.  The bigger the event or holiday, the better.  So with that being said, it’s no wonder why Christmas is the opportune time for the narcissist’s dark side to be on display.

The narcissist has absolutely no problem bringing the joy of Christmas to a halt and redirecting all attention onto themselves.  That’s what the Grinch-like behavior is all about, stealing your joy and gaining your attention.  The narcissist hates to see anyone truly happy because it reminds them of their misery which is unbearable.  So in order to get relief from their own miserable selves, the narcissist will project their misery onto others by way of covert acts of deception.

So don’t be surprised if you receive a text message that takes the wind out of your sail.  The narcissist is simply placing the attention on themselves instead of the holiday or event.  Doing so assures the narcissist that when you think back on the occasion, you will no doubt, think about them.  No concern goes to whether or not the attention is good or bad, any attention will satisfy the desperate need of the narcissist.  And in this case, your misery is their Christmas joy.